Hello, you lovely thing. How’s your Wednesday treating you so far?
Today is a sad day. Today I have decided to give up on a book, which never happens. The book in questions is Howards End, and I’m having to give up because so far I hate pretty much all of the characters. Also, E.M. Forster’s writing style is incredibly long-winded and patronising. The story might actually be quite interesting, but I wouldn’t know because the narrative is sending me to sleep.
Anyway, giving up on a book made me question my personality, my priorities and the inner workings of my very soul (or perhaps something a little bit less melodramatic). I’m being silly, but the truth is that when we choose to give up on something that we consider a big part of who we are, it does tend to make us stop and think.
A friend of mine who loves cheer leading is having to give it up due to health problems, which is a huge shame. When we are forced by circumstance to give up on something we love, there can be an element of resentment and feeling hard done by. Is it better, then, to be able to choose to give up? Is there more dignity in a decision than there is in obligation?
Yes and no. Making the decision to give up something – a vice, a pastime, an unhealthy relationship – gives us a feeling of control and self-discipline, which can be very good for us. Having said that, we are only making the decisions now because we know that later on the decision will be taken away from us, and it will become a case of necessity rather than independent action.
The other thing to consider is that you are not defined by the sort of things that you might find yourself giving up, even if it was a potential (or current) career. I am not defined by the fact that I read a lot, any more than you are defined by your typical Saturday afternoon activities or your preference of hot beverage.
Besides, people change all of the time. You are not who you were a couple of years ago, and you are not who you will be next week. You never know what life is going to give you, and if you have to give something else up in order to move forward, so be it. You might spend years thinking of yourself in one way, and then find that you’ve been going round and round and getting nowhere. Get off the roundabout and find something new.
Have a stupendously enjoyable Wednesday. May your lunch be truly worthy of Instagramming.