Hello, dear reader. We’ve reached Thursday! Hooray! How are you doing?
We are all familiar with the phrase “actions speak louder than words”, but how much do we really believe the idea? We get hung up on words all the time. We re-read text messages and emails, we hold on to hurtful things that people say and let them get to us, and some of us even make a living out of using words (ahem). Obviously, this doesn’t apply to everyone. Some people are very good at letting words go. But for a lot of people, even those who are good at ignoring the things that people say, we don’t really pay enough attention to actions.
The problem with words is that they’re so easy to use, and if you’ve been given them in a written format you can quite literally keep them with you forever. Having said that, I got a bit upset a few months ago because I couldn’t find a load of emails that were exchanged between me and friend over ten years ago. It was quite sweet, really: we used to email each other every day before school. It was like having a pen pal, but with emoticons.
Now that I think about it, it really doesn’t matter about the emails. I am still friends with the guy who I was sending them to, and I got to see him quite a lot while we were both in Edinburgh earlier this month. It would be nice to see what we were writing to each other all those years ago, but the action of having kept in touch for a decade means so much more than knowing exactly what we’ve said to each other in the past.
Don’t get me wrong: I love words. Obviously. But I prefer phone calls to text messages and coffee dates to instant messaging, because in the months and years to come I will not remember anything that was said. I will remember laughing and feeling connected to another person, but I won’t be able to tell you which words we used.
I couldn’t tell you what we talked about at my birthday party, but I remember my friends Katie and Mell making me an amazing Bag End birthday cake. (That’s what’s in the photo at the top of this post. Isn’t it amazing?) I have no idea what our first words to each other were, but I know that my oldest friend and I had a fight when we were six when I threw my ballet shoes at her, and that we made up immediately afterwards. My friend Jon and I have horrendous arguments sometimes (especially when Mr. Jack Daniels has been invited to the party), but we don’t care because we know that the other person will always drop everything if one of us has a crisis.
Words are good, but they’re cheap and easy. Actions can be challenging, but they mean a lot and they have staying power. If words are from Poundland, actions are from Argos. (Seriously, have you tried shopping in Argos? If that’s not a challenge then I don’t know what is.)
Have a gorgeous Thursday.