Hello, lovely reader! How are you?
As I said in this post, day trips are brilliant, and yesterday’s was no exception. I had a very successful meeting, went for some delicious food with my friends, and then we went all touristy and messed around on Brighton pier. The last ride we went on was the ghost train, which is what I’d like to to use as a slightly odd starting point today.
The ghost train was my favourite part of yesterday’s trip. D’you know what’s weird about that? I didn’t even want to go on it at first. One of my friends was very keen, but I was pretty reluctant because I hate everything horror-related. But the train ride was a brilliant combination of quite jumpy (lots of stuff made us scream, even though it was mostly in surprise) and gloriously awful (lots of terrible, clunky puppets that made us laugh hysterically as soon as we’d finished screaming).
I think a lot of people find life scary, particularly those who are still working out their post-uni plan or a specific career path. We don’t know what we’re doing, where we’re going to live or what to pursue. As children we were led along the SATs-GCSEs-A Levels pathway with very carefully worked out stops for coursework, Duke of Edinburgh Awards and the always-awkward sex education lessons. In other words, we always knew exactly what we were doing, even if it made us roll our eyes and start doodling on our notebooks.
When you get out of education you have to start planning things based on your own timings, not end of term exams or essay deadlines. Some people take to this like a duck to pancakes, but for some of us it’s more difficult to establish our own way of working. How do we know how well we’re doing when there are no parents’ evenings? How can we tell if our careers are progressing at a good pace unless we are graded? When does it become unacceptable to own (and use) a Thunderbirds lunch box?
I’m not suggesting that adult life should be run like a school – no more navy and yellow uniforms for me, thank you so very much Watford Grammar School for Girls – but I think that the lack of objective structure to real life is a bit of a shock to the system after education. Not knowing exactly what to do is pretty scary.
A lot of the big things about adult life are like getting on a rubbish ghost train: you’re not sure what to expect, it could be pretty scary, and there’s no real way of knowing which direction you’re going in. On a brighter note, the scary bits can be funny afterwards, and it’s all a lot easier to cope with if you’ve got a good friend with you. I cannot believe that I learned a life lesson from a rubbish ghost train.
Have a gorgeous Thursday. I hope you have the mother of all lunches today.