Hello, lovely reader. Are you having a nice day so far?
I’m very lucky that I came home from Edinburgh and got to see lots of my favourite people straight away. It was an excellent way to stave off the post-Fringe blues. As I type this I am sitting in my living room with two of my closest friends, talking about wedding shoes and boys and cheese (obviously). We have a Sex and the City DVD on in the background and a lot of food on the table. We are also all creative types doing bits and pieces of work on our laptops, so it’s a productive day as well as a very enjoyable one. I am very happy right now.
Yesterday was not quite so good – I got a bit mopey about having to deal with real-life responsibilities again, and told my friend Laura that I didn’t want to be a grown up. Her response was “Being a grown up is great. It’s exactly the same as being a child, but you don’t have to answer to your parents.”
I decided to look on the bright side (as per the recommendation of those charming Monty Python chaps), and have a think about what some of the small but significant benefits of being a grown up actually are, particularly those that would have massively appealed to us as children. Here are a few of my favourites:
1) You can stay up until 4am watching The Vicar of Dibley drinking Cava if you want to (which may or may not be what we did last night). Bedtimes are a thing of the past.
2) You can do a massive jigsaw puzzle whenever you feel like it, and you don’t have to put it away until you want to.
3) You can have serious, adult conversations about life, love etc. AND you can have the same silly conversations as you did when you were a kid. Example: “I don’t understand why anyone would bring up politics on a first date.” “No, me neither. Who do you think invented cheesecake? I mean, it was a great idea, but it’s a bit of a random thing to make.”
4) Your household organisation system is entirely your own. (There is a bizarre satisfaction to be had from deciding where to keep your mugs.)
5) You go on trips to museums, take long walks and read books because you actually want to, not because your parents or teachers are forcing you to.
6) You don’t have to do exams. That’s a big one.
7) It doesn’t matter what kind of state you come home in, because no one is going to ground you.
8) Dinner can be whatever you fancy. If you are anything like me and Ash, that means that a “sensible” dinner can be as simple as mozzarella dippers and Diet Coke.
9) If you decide that you want to wear a party dress on a Monday afternoon or pyjamas on a Saturday night, you are no longer restricted by school uniforms and parental advice.
10) You don’t have to worry about how bad your acne is going to be when you hit puberty, or whether or not sex is fun, or who you’re going to be when you grow up, because you’re already there and most of the scary, new things have already happened.
The thing about being a grown up is that it is difficult, but it’s also a lot of fun. I think we should all try to enjoy the good stuff and be proud of ourselves for handling the tricky bits. We might not get to be Peter Pan in terms of ageing, but we can certainly aim for his attitude.
Have a beautiful Thursday.